Keeping Your Bridesmaids Happy!

Through all the wedding madness, it can get pretty crazy and stressful. Nevertheless, this is supposed to be one of those times where you look back on, years from now and think about how wonderful it was. Your bridesmaids are there to help you feel at ease about the whole wedding planning thing, however, that doesn’t mean you should boss everyone around. No one likes a bridezilla! If you treat your bridesmaids’ right, I’m sure they’ll treat you even better, I mean it’s YOUR big day and they all love you!

So here are some tips on how to keep your bridesmaids happy!!

1. Realize that your wedding isn’t the only thing on your girls’ plates. They have their own lives, jobs, and relationships and quite frankly, your wedding isn’t their number one priority. This doesn’t mean they don’t love you, they just have a lot more to worry about at the moment, but when your big day comes I can guarantee all the attention will be on you

2. Let them know ahead of time what you would like for them to do. Don’t just tell them; ask them if they would be willing to help. More than likely, they’d be more than happy to help if you asked nicely. Also, it’ll make a much happier bridesmaid if you don’t ask last minute and then hold a grudge against them for not being able to help. Remember that this isn’t their wedding, it’s yours. So don’t be expecting everyone to do everything for you just because you ask. 

3. Keep costs down. Not only paying their own bills but between the bridal shower, the bachelorette party, and the actual wedding, costs can really add up. If you can make it happen, pay for part of their dresses or let them know that because of all their help, it’s not necessary for them to get you a wedding gift. I’m sure all of your bridesmaids will appreciate the gesture.

4. Let them pick out their dresses or have somewhat of a say. If you are super set on them wearing Jenny Yoo’s Skylar dress in blush, let them pick out the shoes or jewelry. If you’re not completely set on a dress, choose flattering dresses for everyone, mix-and-match them so everyone looks great on the big day!

5. Avoid bridal drama. If everyone doesn’t know each other, introduce them. Plan outings for you all to attend to get to know each other so it’s not awkward when it gets closer to all the wedding events. Also, don’t let your bridesmaids compete for attention. You chose everyone to be your bridesmaids for a reason, so let them all know how special they are to you.

6. Talk about stuff other than the wedding. I know you’re super excited and there’s so much to talk about but just because you have cake toppers and favors on your mind doesn’t mean everyone else does. Make time to talk and do other things that aren’t wedding related. Trust me, it’ll keep you and your bridesmaids sane.

7. Show how much you appreciate them. Give them a special gift at the rehearsal dinner. Actually put some thought into it, don’t forget about it and then scramble last minute to find something mediocre. You want them to know how thankful you are for them and all the help they’ve been to make your big day amazing.

8. The wedding day can be chaotic at times, and relaxing is much better than being stressed, so make sure all your bridesmaids are nice and relaxed so everyone can celebrate the big day together and enjoy themselves. Snacks, drinks, music and a little extra pampering never hurt anyone!

   (Photo Credit: Bre Thurson)

 (Photo Credit: Bre Thurson)

(Photo Credit: Lauren Kinsey Fine Art Wedding Photography)

(Photo Credit: Lauren Kinsey Fine Art Wedding Photography)

9. Say thank you. A lot. Seriously, a simple thank you can go a long way. Often times brides are so deep into the wedding, they forget all the people they have helping them out. Saying thank you will let your bridesmaids know, “I appreciate you and all you do for me.

And last but definitely not least, never ever let the bridezilla take over you. Yes, there will be those moments when you have a breakdown over the tiniest thing, and your bridesmaids will expect a breakdown every here and there, but don't make it a reoccurring thing.